Is it Better to be Single or be in a Relationship? By Augustine C
Which is better? Being single and free or being in a committed relationship? Are you weighing down the advantages and disadvantages of going steady with someone you love?
There are a lot of things that only single people can enjoy. They have the freedom to do whatever they like, and they can have more opportunities to meet wonderful people. However, admit it, there are also benefits of being in a relationship, which many singles long to have in the future as well.
Now, let us take a look at some of the important benefits of the two. Hopefully, these help you decide whether it is time for you to be committed or enjoy singlehood for a longer time.
There are many advantages to being single. You may not be able to appreciate singlehood now, but there are actually reasons to rejoice. Take a look at the following:
1. No one to demand time from you.
One of the things you can enjoy as a single is your freedom in handling your time. For instance, you can go home anytime you want to (unless you live with your parents and they have set a curfew). Also, you do not have to make time for habitual dates.
2. You can freely do the things you want.
Having no boyfriend/girlfriend gives you the liberty to be yourself more. You can travel alone, wear what you want, and have an overnight with friends, without worrying it would lead you to a fight.
3. Making a decision for yourself will be less complicated.
If you are in a relationship, then you cannot make major decisions without consulting your partner first. On the other hand, being single allows you to take risks without being accountable to someone. You can work abroad or change career without having to consider someone else’s choice.
4. You can easily go out with your friends or see anyone you like.
Being single lets you spend time with your friends—both guys and girls—without any limitation. Some boyfriends/girlfriends forbid their partners from hanging out with friends from the opposite sex because of jealousy.
5. Focusing on your studies or work will be easier.
Whether you are studying or working, you can have better concentration if you are single. No late night calls, demands for dates, and stressful lovers’ quarrels.
6. It saves you from headaches and heartaches.
Yes, it is beautiful to be in love, but at the same time, it makes you vulnerable to pain. Conflicts, misunderstandings, and, sometimes, heartbreaks are an inevitable part of your journey as a couple.
7. You have more time to reach for your dreams.
Having no commitment to someone gives you the freedom to focus on your life goals. There is no one to oppose your plans, pressure you for time, and disturb you when you need to concentrate on achieving those. For instance, you can migrate to anywhere you like for your career without needing the approval of a boyfriend/girlfriend.
8. Saving up becomes more attainable.
Without a partner, you can save much from dates, presents, and the expenses which are usually doubled if you have one. Well, it is more practical to have saved up for your future first before your future mate arrives.
9. You can spend more time with your family and friends.
Who says being single means you have no love life? Take this time as an opportunity to lavish your affection on your parents, siblings, and everyone else you consider family. You should also enjoy hanging out with your best pals because someday all of you will be busy with your own partners—and even families.
10. You have more time to explore and discover yourself.
The most beautiful part of being single is the opportunity of self-discovery. You have the freedom to explore places, meet new people, develop new skills, find new hobbies, and take risks without the fear of losing someone in the process.
BEING IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
Having a partner has its benefits too. However, only a healthy relationship can give you these. Healthy means it is founded on commitment (not emotions), respect, trust, and true love. Check out its advantages:
1. There is someone to inspire you.
Being with someone you love can inspire you to be a better version of yourself. Of course, you want to be the best for him/her, so you will do your best to improve your character and be stable physically, emotionally, financially, and even spiritually.
2. It can bring you happiness.
The joy that love brings is something you cannot exchange for material possessions. No wonder, there are people who are willing to give up better opportunities just to be with the person special to them. Also, people who have a supportive partner can go through life trials more encouraged because someone cheers them up.
3. Someone will be there for you whenever you are down.
In connection with #2, being in a healthy relationship gives you a stronger support system. You know you do not have to face challenges alone, and you have a shoulder to lean on.
4. It makes you realize that you are worthy to be loved.
Having a partner who loves you unconditionally makes you feel lovable. It boosts your self-esteem, knowing you are still loved despite your failures and flaws.
5. You can have a partner/supporter in reaching your dreams.
Being single may give you the freedom to pursue your dreams, but if you have a partner who has the same goals with you—or at least supports yours—then you are blessed. This person will be your pusher and accountability partner in your mission to achieve your dreams.
6. Having a best friend in your partner is reassuring.
You got the best boyfriend/girlfriend if s/he is your best friend at the same time. Your relationship will be a complete package since you have a confidante in your partner.
7. It can reduce your stress level.
Since being in a healthy relationship can boost your happy hormones, it makes you feel good. This can help you be relieved from stress, which is helpful in avoiding health problems such as heart disease and low immunity.
8. You got an accountability partner in pursuing a healthier lifestyle.
You are blessed if you are in a relationship with someone who shares the same lifestyle goals with you. If you have a partner who encourages you to watch your diet, drink a lot of water, and live healthier in general, then you are in good hands.
9. Visualizing your future family becomes clearer.
Most people dream of having their own family in the future. However, it is when you are in a relationship that you get a better vision of how your future family would be. You and your partner can start planning for that dream—and that plan serves as a direction of how your dream family will come to life.
10. You learn what true love really is.
You know your relationship is for keeps if it is founded on true love—patient, selfless, and unconditional. Learning this kind of love will make you a better person since you can apply this in how you deal with other people.
Single or in a Relationship?
If you are single, please do not rush in finding a partner because love is not found—it is planted and cultivated until it grows. On the other hand, if you are in a relationship and you are going through some trials, be patient in working out the problems first before deciding to let go.
Both being single and in a healthy relationship have beautiful benefits. You just need to figure out your season now. This way, you can enjoy your status without being pressured.